Day 332 – Marriage

Proverbs 12:4 An excellent wife is the crown of her husband, but she who causes shame is like rottenness in his bones.

• God’s names:
• Yeshuwa – Jesus
• Elohiym – Supreme God
• JEHOVAH – Self-existent, Eternal
• Ab – Father
• El – Strength, Mighty, Almighty God
• Theos – Supreme Divinity
• Kurios – Supreme Authority
• Christos – Anointed One, Messiah
• Ruwach – Violent Wind, Breath, Spirit
• JEHOVAH Tsaba – Self-existent, Eternal, Hosts
• Iesous – Jesus
• Asah – To make, Maker
• Qadowsh – Holy One
• God’s character:
• Husband
• Redeemer

Everyone has expectations when it comes to marriage. They want to live happily ever after. They test the waters when they start dating, but to truly know what your mate is like, you need to marry. Though much of society opts for living together outside of marriage. Those arrangements usually end up with single parents and a shattered idea of happily ever after.

No one knows about marriage more than Solomon who had 300 wives and 700 concubines. He knew the good ones and the bad ones. Thus, he could write this proverb about wives who honor their husbands and those who tear them down.

Elohiym ordained marriage when He made Adam and Eve. He knew what would make a good marriage and it wasn’t living happily ever after. You only find that in fairy tales.

Genesis 2:18 And JEHOVAH Elohiym said, “It is not good that man should be alone; I will make him a helper comparable to him.”

 21 And JEHOVAH Elohiym caused a deep sleep to fall on Adam, and he slept; and He took one of his ribs and closed the flesh in its place. 22 Then the rib which JEHOVAH Elohiym had taken from man He made into a woman, and He brought her to the man. 23 And Adam said, “This is now bone of my bones and flesh of my flesh; she shall be called Woman, because she was taken out of Man.” 24 Therefore a man will leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife, and they will become one flesh.

Divorce was common in Israel. The Pharisees put the question of marriage to Yeshuwa.

Matthew 19:3 The Pharisees also came to Him, testing Him, and saying to Him, “Is it lawful for a man to divorce his wife for just any reason?”

 4 He answered and said to them, “Have you not read that He who made them at the beginning ‘made them male and female,’ 5 and said, ‘For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife, and the two will become one flesh’? 6 So then, they are no longer two but one flesh. Therefore, what Theos has joined together, let not man separate.”

 7 They said to Him, “Why then did Moses command to give a certificate of divorce, and to put her away?”

 8 He said to them, “Moses, because of the hardness of your hearts, allowed you to divorce your wives, but from the beginning it was not so. 9 I say to you, whoever divorces his wife, except for sexual immorality, and marries another, commits adultery; and whoever marries her who is divorced commits adultery.”

You find as many divorces among Christians as you do in the secular world. What does Elohiym say about divorce?

Malachi 2:10 Have we not all one Ab? Has not one El created us? Why do we deal treacherously with one another by profaning the covenant of the fathers? 11 Judah has dealt treacherously, and an abomination has been committed in Israel and in Jerusalem, for Judah has profaned JEHOVAH’S holy institution which He loves: He has married the daughter of a foreign god. 12 May JEHOVAH cut off from the tents of Jacob the man who does this, being awake and aware, yet who brings an offering to JEHOVAH of Tsaba! 13 This is the second thing you do: You cover the altar of JEHOVAH with tears, with weeping and crying; so, He does not regard the offering anymore, nor receive it with goodwill from your hands. 14 Yet you say, “For what reason?” Because JEHOVAH has been a witness between you and the wife of your youth, with whom you have dealt treacherously; yet she is your companion and your wife by covenant. 15 Did He not make them one, having a remnant of the Ruwach? And why one? He seeks godly offspring. Therefore, take heed to your spirit, and let no one deal treacherously with the wife of his youth. 16 For JEHOVAH Elohiym of Israel says He hates divorce, for it covers one’s garment with violence,” says JEHOVAH of hosts. “Therefore, take heed to your spirit, that you do not deal treacherously.” 17 You wearied JEHOVAH with your words; yet you say, “In what way have we wearied Him?” In that you say, “Everyone who does evil is good in the sight of JEHOVAH, and He delights in them,” Or “Where is the Elohiym of justice?”

Christians use the same excuse today as they did when Malachi wrote this. They use every excuse they can to divorce their spouse.

Paul also had an answer for divorce.

1 Corinthians 7:1 Now concerning the things of which you wrote to me: It is good for a man not to touch a woman. 2 Nevertheless, because of sexual immorality, let each man have his own wife, and let each woman have her own husband. 3 Let the husband give to his wife the affection due her, and likewise also the wife to her husband. 4 The wife does not have authority over her own body, but the husband does. And likewise, the husband does not have authority over his own body, but the wife does. 5 Do not deprive one another except with consent for a time, that you may give yourselves to fasting and prayer; and come together again so that Satan does not tempt you because of your lack of self-control. 6 However, I say this as a concession, not as a commandment. 7 For I wish that all men were even as I myself. However, each one has his own gift from Theos, one in this manner and another in that. 8 However, I say to the unmarried and to the widows: It is good for them if they remain even as I am; 9 but if they cannot exercise self-control, let them marry. For it is better to marry than to burn with passion.

 10 Now to the married I command, yet not I but Kurios: A wife is not to leave her husband. 11 However, even if she does leave, let her remain unmarried or be reconciled to her husband. And a husband is not to divorce his wife. 12 To the rest I, not Kurios, say: If any brother has a wife who does not believe, and she is willing to live with him, let him not divorce her. 13 And a woman who has a husband who does not believe, if he is willing to live with her, let her not divorce him. 14 For the unbelieving husband is sanctified by the wife, and the unbelieving wife is sanctified by the husband; otherwise, your children would be unclean, but now they are holy. 15 However, if the unbeliever leaves, let him leave; a brother or a sister is not under bondage in such cases. Theos called us to peace. 16 For how do you know, O wife, whether you will save your husband? Or how do you know, O husband, whether you will save your wife?

You have one concession in divorce: If your unbelieving spouse wants divorce, you are not to stop them.

2 Corinthians 6:14 Do not be unequally yoked together with unbelievers. For what fellowship has righteousness with lawlessness? And what communion has light with darkness? (NKJV)

However, Paul also writes how you are to treat your spouse.

Ephesians 5:22 Wives, submit to your own husbands, as to Kurios. 23 For the husband is head of the wife, as also Christos is head of the church; and He is the Soter of the body. 24 Therefore, just as the church is subject to Christos, let the wives be to their own husbands in everything. 25 Husbands, love your wives, just as Christos also loved the church and gave Himself for her, 26 that He might sanctify and cleanse her with the washing of water by the word, 27 that He might present her to Himself a glorious church, not having spot or wrinkle or any such thing, but that she should be holy and without blemish. 28 Husbands ought to love their wives as their own bodies; he who loves his wife loves himself. 29 For no one ever hated his own flesh, but nourishes and cherishes it, just as Kurios does the church. 30 For we are members of His body, of His flesh and of His bones. 31 “For this reason, a man will leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife, and the two will become one flesh.” 32 This is a great mystery, but I speak concerning Christos and the church. 33 Nevertheless let each one of you love his wife as himself and let the wife see that she respects her husband.

Christians are to love their spouse in the same way Yeshuwa loves the church. You are His bride and He is your groom.

Matthew 9:14 Then the disciples of John came to Him, saying, “Why do we and the Pharisees fast often, but Your disciples do not fast?”

 15 Iesous said to them, “Can the friends of the bridegroom mourn as long as the bridegroom is with them? The days will come when the bridegroom will be taken away from them, and then they will fast.

Isaiah 54:5 For your Asah is your husband, JEHOVAH of Tsaba is His name; and your Redeemer is the Qadowsh of Israel; He is called the Elohiym of the whole earth.

Adultery is the only valid reason for divorce. In every other situation you are to make every effort to love and honor your spouse. If you are single, your spouse is Theos.

Let’s pray: Father, Your Word is clear. Help me to honor and love my spouse as I love and honor You as my husband. In Jesus’ name, I pray. Amen.

Copyright © 17 December 2025 by Valerie Routhieaux